tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4203722176190399864.post6301334931674072314..comments2019-09-14T16:25:31.901-07:00Comments on Tips for a happier and healthier me: Tip #25: Learn to accept what you cannot changePilar Mundayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857363496357020474noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4203722176190399864.post-31088968126446518732012-06-24T14:37:28.978-07:002012-06-24T14:37:28.978-07:00Thanks Jean for your super kind words. Yes, maybe ...Thanks Jean for your super kind words. Yes, maybe we need to have that challenge!Pilar Mundayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17857363496357020474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4203722176190399864.post-39211491299676561372012-06-22T16:03:43.511-07:002012-06-22T16:03:43.511-07:00Maybe we could form a support group! Like Pilar...Maybe we could form a support group! Like Pilar's Fitness Challenge which is ending this week. The PROACT Challenge - we'll put an X each day that we catch ourselves and Proact instead of React. Anybody?! This would be more intimidating for me than physical exercise ;)<br /><br />Gracias Pilar. To summarize, instead of pondering how we can be wise enough to "know the difference" between what we must Accept and what we can Change, maybe the bywords can be, instead, Proact instead of React. For example, Sally has been told there's no way she's going to get a raise. She could ponder whether this is to be Accepted or to be Changed, she could get angry (React), or she could PROACT (which includes some acceptance, but instead of getting angry, she will strategize about how to live on the current salary and how to work toward changing jobs/careers). <br /><br />I'm going to try another example. Joe lost his arm. Clearly he can't change this. So there's going to need to be some acceptance. But more importantly, maybe, is the Proact vs React opportunity. He could get depressed, or he could proactively start figuring out how to live with one arm. Again, maybe some acceptance is required in order to Proact instead of React. Mm hmmm.<br /><br />Your cancer has been way tougher and more complex than these examples, but the interesting thing I think you've brought up is that maybe instead of, or in addition to the Accept vs Change duality, there is (also) the React vs Proact duality.<br /><br />YOU have been the queen of proactivity, Pilar. I just reread your comments again before I will ship this response. Yes! Like Sinek says, maybe proactivity brings some relaxation. So maybe we need to (1) find a little acceptance, and then (2) be proactive, which will lead to (3) some relaxation...<br /><br />To be continued. (I'm going to do "arms" now!) xoxJeannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4203722176190399864.post-72812024411619701252012-06-18T09:36:35.950-07:002012-06-18T09:36:35.950-07:00El tip de hoy también sirve para el trabajo diario...El tip de hoy también sirve para el trabajo diario. Son muchas horas las que se pasan en la oficina y en las que se comparten muchas situaciones en las que lo mejor es "proact" en lugar de "react" (sobre todo si eres el jefe). Lo voy a poner en práctica con una sonrisa. Gracias. KikaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4203722176190399864.post-70111108953966833312012-06-18T01:28:25.335-07:002012-06-18T01:28:25.335-07:00Aceptar las cosas tal como son es estar en el buen...Aceptar las cosas tal como son es estar en el buen camino para poder poner soluciones que sin duda vendrán solo que hay que tener mucha paciencia y muchos animo y tu los tienes.EnriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4203722176190399864.post-5569731703750588082012-06-17T18:25:48.466-07:002012-06-17T18:25:48.466-07:00We all need to learn to accept things the way they...We all need to learn to accept things the way they are, but easier said than done, of course. Another good read, Pilar!Svetlananoreply@blogger.com